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[unearthingbone]

tell me something anonymously:

a secret,

something that troubles you,

something you've never told anyone else,

what you're afraid of,

something you want to say to someone but you struggle to (including me, if i make that list),

the thing or person that makes you feel most alive,

what breaks your heart,

the scariest thing you've ever done,

what makes you happy,

who you love,

and on and on.

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[(Anonymous)]

ever since my partner went on T his sex drive has been so unbelievably low. I've had sex twice this year and both times were the result of heavy-handed persuasion. He shows me how much he loves me but I miss our physical relationship, even though the rest of our relationship is perfect. Is that selfish??

[(Anonymous)]

i don't think that's selfish. i assume you probably have - but have you talked to him about it? my partner and i hadn't had sex in quite a few months and although i tried not to internalize it by saying 'he's not attracted to me anymore', i ended up doing so without meaning to. so then we had more problems when it came to talking about our lack of sex because then i felt like there was a wall between us in regards to the issue.

personally, i don't feel you're being selfish because i've been there.

[unearthingbone.livejournal.com]

i'm sorry you and your partner are having this difficulty. i don't think it's selfish at all to miss the physical component of your relationship, especially when it sounds like it was part of your relationship before. i don't think it is at all unreasonable to want to have a consensual and healthy sex life in a romantic relationship.

i would, however, advocate against using "heavy-handed persuasion" in relation to sex 'cause that could lead to icky situations.

i hope you're able to figure this out. have you tried talking to him recently about this topic?